Now i finally understand this sentence.
In times like this, you know who is truly happy about your reunion and who is not. Which are those who truly give you blessings and considered as your real family members. Now i know.
Nobody give you a pat on your shoulders and tell you, good job, you work every cent for your wedding and finally, you can make it the way you want it to be.
I just had to pen this down, though i have forsaken my blog for about 3 mths. Who knows, i might just revive it since this has always been a channel for me to procrastinate and pen down my feelings towards things around me. Joe and i have been working so hard, harder than anyone can imagine for the past 5 yrs or so, so we can have the results today. Despite repeated discouragement from my parents, we continue to expand MDS and made it through nothing but hard work. And now, we are getting married. Like i said, matrimony is supposed to be a happy affair for the couple and people around them. Yet on my side, not Joe’s side, my extended family sucks. I can only say, they suck and nothing else. No better words to describe them. And if any of my extended family is reading my blog, yes you suck.
After being engaged for 9 mths, the only few times i heard and witnessed family members getting excited over my wedding or discussing about details are all from Joe’s family. I can genuinely feel the happiness from this group of very simple and heartwarming people. And this is family and kinship. I am so much happier when im with them. Not like my extended family. Frankly, my heart is broken. On top of a broken heart, i feel anger towards this group of people. Arrogant, unfriendly, disrespectful and always feel they are on top of everyone else.
Do you know what is an engagement? Its means an event OTHER THAN A WEDDING DINNER. And so what does it mean? It simply means its a small gathering for both PARENTS & CLOSE FRIENDS to witness the get-together of Joe & I. Why are people getting angry over the fact we cant invite them? Why does it seem like as if they are the ones getting married and not us? Why does it become THEIR BUSINESS? Why cant they just understand we cannot accommodate so many people? It is not a wedding dinner, i repeat. ENGAGEMENT. Can you guys imagine i have family members getting pissed because i never invite them to my solemnization at Lantern? And these people can be pissed off for more than 3 months over this matter. And they blame it on my parents. Can you count these people as your family members? Can i really believe they are happy about my reunion with Joe?
I really didn’t want to put this up on my blog cos frankly speaking, i find it rather embarrassing to tell readers about such personal family issues, but seriously, this issue is not resolved for the past 3 mths and in fact, it got worse. How can you get angry over such things for more than 3 months? And threaten my parents you wont want to attend other family gatherings?
Its solemnization which lasted only for 2 hours. I already have 8 family members who came which was 5 more than Joe’s side. By right, he should have more family members since he’s the guy, and on top of that, he’s the person who organize and paid for the entire event, how can i still be so unfair and invite anyone by the surname of Yeo to come?!
So disappointing. This entire marriage affair made me realize many things are far different from what i imagine my wedding to be like. Of course, my husband gave me things i wanted, from a vera wang gown, to a paris photoshoot, and dinner at capella, but other than that, i dont feel the blessings from people who matters to me. My friends are more excited than my family, my husband’s family are even more excited than my family too, everyone except for my family. Its almost like they are using my marriage to show their unhappiness against each other. I REALLY REALLY DONT NEED THESE PEOPLE AT MY WEDDING.
Now i can finally understand why some couples chose not to have wedding dinner, and just a honeymoon.We use our own money, time and effort to plan everything on top of our busy schedule yet there are people who are unhappy about the marriage. And being unhappy is their choice, rather than giving blessings.
